In today’s society self confidence and feeling confident is all linked with your weight. There is this enormous pressure from the media, friends and ourselves to feel validated by the number on the scale. Recently I did something so small that really changed the way I see myself and it didn’t involve losing even a gram of weight.
In the past two months I’ve been slowly getting into the groove of going to the gym. Let’s just saying getting engaged gave me the biggest kick in the butt to get myself in shape for no other reason than I want to look and more so FEEL super hot on our big day. Alot of people have rolled their eyes at that but I don’t apologize for being motivated by that. Now I know what you’re thinking ‘oh you started going to the gym and you’ve lost a little weight, good for you’ but I can honestly say I haven’t lost any weight yet. Naturally I yo-yo in-between 70-74kg depending on what time of the month it is and alot that jazz which on the scales is still very true. Even when I had the first meeting at the gym I told my trainer the goal isn’t too lose weight it’s to feel fitter and amazing.
Now you’re all wondering what it is that I’ve done that has helped my find a whole lotta confident right?
I started wearing the correct size.
For the longest time I’ve struggled with perceiving myself as larger than what I actually am. I’ve been a size 10 wearing size 12-14 clothes (not that that’s a bad thing!). Only a month ago I was refreshing my wardrobe getting ready for the winter months. When placing orders online I have always went the biggest size I can… Until I realised that nothing was looking quite right and that maybe.. Just maybe I wasn’t compensating for weight that wasn’t there.
Because I started to feel better about myself due to being more active I started seeing myself how I actually am.
Now looking back the reason I was wearing oversized bigger clothes is because I wasn’t happy with how I looked. It’s a little deep but I just didn’t have anything positive to say about my body and it’s been like that for years. It was never obvious until I look back on it. I wasn’t vocally bashing myself and I never actively thought that I wasn’t happy. It was all happening subconsciously and until I made a change I never knew. I haven’t lost any weight but I started moving my body and all of sudden I feel better about myself so I wanted to look better.
It feels weird to be typing this all out and it’ll feel even weirder when this goes up but I wanted to open up the conversation. As women we are constantly told we should look a certain way and be a certain size dependent on stupid things like our age. Fuck all that. If you’re like me and feeling not so confident because you have some beef about your bod make a change.
When it all boils down it’a not about how you look it’s about how you feel about how you look.
For me the anti-gym mindset is gone and now I see why all the gym bunnies love it. It’s not about physical appearance or losing weight it really is about how it makes you feel – all that is just an added bonus.
Have you ever changed something so small and it changed your confidence?
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