As my 22 birthday approaches at the end of month I find myself reflecting on the past few years. I think it’s important to look back on periods in your life and take something from where you once were.. Here is a little letter to 18 year old me. I’d love to hear what you’d tell your 18 year old self in the comments!


Dear 18 year old me,

You’ve had to stay at home instead of venturing off to university due to health problems. You see a nurse everyday and you feel as though you’re 80 years old instead of 18. Just know that it WILL get better. Even though years later you’ll learn this is a disease and that it will be with you long term – you’re a strong lady and you’ll be okay. Don’t use it as an excuse not to plan and live your life how you want too. Take care of yourself, of course! But you deserve to live your life how you want too. Don’t let it hold you back or be afraid of the ‘what if’. You are not defined by this.


All your friends have moved away and you’re concerned they’ll forget you. You’ll make an effort with nothing in return but in a few years time you’ll be saying to your little cousin ‘the people you are friends with in high school you won’t be friends with forever’. It’s true. Hold onto to the friends who make that effort and move on from the ones who don’t. Remember them fondly but don’t feel sad about it. It’s life. People outgrow people and you’ll make amazing new friends once you move away.


Take time to get to know yourself during your gap year and don’t put so much pressure on yourself to do things you don’t really enjoy like partying. It’s okay that you’re 18 and don’t love going to the clubs. Stop trying to fit in with everyone else who loves it. Everyone is different. If you don’t want to go then don’t. Learn how to enjoy your own company instead of always concerning yourself in what everyone else is doing. Once you move away you’ll spend alot of time alone and you may just find yourself in a super dark place if you don’t consider that now.


Even though you’ve accepted an offer for a teaching degree make sure to explore others things you enjoy. Don’t hold back or feel stupid because you enjoy blogging or beauty products. You never know one day that may just become a part of your job.

Just remember you are not defined by sickness, the people around you or your choice of career path. Enjoy your year off, grow and don’t feel stupid because of your circumstances. Love yourself. You will be okay.


 What would you tell your 18 year old self?


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    Wow what an amazing idea! There are so many things I would say to my 18 year old self! That was 10 years ago for me now so a LONG time ago! If only we could actually go back and say these things to ourselves! I was in a car accident when I was 20 that dramatically changed my life and I would definitely try to snap myself out of the depression that caused me to develop. I guess I wouldn’t really change a thing though as it ALWAYS turns out to be ok so I guess that;s the main thing I will tell myself… it WILL be ok.. <3

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      You should definitely do a post on it Tahana! I’d love to read… Yes! I feel the same way. It’s all okay would be something I’d tell me dramatic self over and over xD

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    Oh my gosh Sarah!!! I loved this post. You touched on two points that are totally me too (high school friends & clubbing). I was definitely the more emotional and needy one from my friendship circle in highschool and turns out straight after I was dropped like a hot spud (more or less), really hurt me and then I realised nah I don’t need you then haha! & totally feel the same about clubbing. I only go a couple times a year if that for birthdays etc, it doesn’t really do that much for me.. x

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      I don’t actually remember the last time I stepped foot into a club. I find it so boring… I’d much rather sit in a quiet bar or go for dinner… Or stay at home :P

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