For those of you who didn’t know Isaac & I got engaged before Christmas last year and it’s been a whirlwind. I thought I’d share a few things I’ve learnt since he put a ring on it.
A weird negative connotation
This was probably the first thing we noticed and it’s that older generations, not everyone this is a generalisation, think we’re crazy. There is no doubt marriage is a big commitment and it’s a milestone in your life but I’ve found when talking to older people they say really awful things. Most of the time it’s joking around like ‘you both are crazy’ and little remarks but overall it’s pretty shocking. It’s although there is a negative connotation that comes with marriage and we should almost be dreading getting married.
It can be lonely
It sounds sad but I’m only 22 and all my friends are in very different life circumstances whether they’re travelling, have moved away, are studying or single there isn’t anyone who is at this stage of their life. It’s not a bad thing, god I think all my friends are doing amazing things and really killing it at life but it just means the experience is a little bit less how you picture it when you’re at school. I always imagined that we’d all get married in a year space and we’d be helping each other and all that but it’s far from reality. Isaac and I are really enjoying the planning process and cannot wait to share our day with all over family and friends but it has been a little different from what I expected!
Everything is marketed towards the bride
I mean EVERYTHING. There are probably two or three magazines in the newsagents that have a picture of the bride AND groom as opposed to just a bride. It’s insane! Trying to find websites for inspiration for Isaac’s outfit is near impossible and if you’re wanting something out of the box for men be prepared to spend hours searching. One magazine I’d recommend is Hello May – it’s beautiful and filled to the brim of real weddings.
Society norms and expectations suck
We’re planning a really non-traditional wedding and when I’ve explained snippets to people around us often they’re confused. The one example I’ll use because it doesn’t give anything away is that we’re not having a bridal party. When we’ve been in stores explaining that people are often taken back and really rude. I don’t mind that but it’s funny that weddings are almost expected to be this formal thing with a bridal party and a huge puffy dress. We’ve really focused on what WE want from the day and at some stages we’ve had to step back and be like hang on is that something we want to even happen.
PS: it might sound like I’m whinging and I’m not. It’s just a few unexpected things that have popped up. We’re loving being engaged and are so excited for the wedding in 2017!
Have you got engaged young? What were your experiences?
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