What are your plans now?
It’s the question everyone seems to be asking us. The old people in our life (grandparents and aunties) to older siblings and even friends who are our age. I never thought that marriage would bring with the bag of responsibilities to know what the fuck you’re doing with life. We have made it quite clear to the people in our live that we don’t plan on having a baby right now so instead of ‘oh when are you having a baby?’ we get ‘so what are your plans now?’
I find it really overwhelming because as far as I’m concerned I married my best friend and we had a cool party. Never did I think that after that I had to have my life figured out to preach to everyone. Don’t get me wrong I know alot of the people who are asking us have good intentions but it’s the preconception that we have things all planned out – we don’t. We don’t even know what we are having for dinner tonight let alone our big life plans.
All I know is that I need some time at home to recharge and get my health back on track so for a few months I’d like to keep things pretty quiet and simple. Do I need to know more than that? I don’t know. Do other people meticulously plan out their years in advance? If yes, how the fuck do they do that? I love a plan and thrive off short term plans however how do people know in a years time they’ll have a baby or buy a house? When I was chatting to friend earlier this year she said that she knew her partner was going to propose last year because it was in their plan that by the end of 2016 they’d be engaged then married in 2017. Isn’t that crazy? Doesn’t that take the fun and spontaneity out of life?
Maybe it’s because we’ve gotten married young (I’m 23 and Isaac is 25) that we feel slightly overwhelmed by the questions. I guess majority of people get married with the plans to have kids – they get hitched when they’re ready to settle. For us it was the opposite. We got married because we knew we were going to do all that grown up stuff together and we really fucking liked each other not because we were ready to settle down. I feel like our lives are so fun now!
It’s just overwhelming. I feel this ridiculous pull from people to know or when we say ‘we might go overseas next year’ people are looking for clarity in our answers and it is funny to see everyone’s reaction to our answers. I’m a homebody and sometimes I just say ‘no plans yet I just want to have a quiet year this year’ people are confused. I don’t feel bad about our lack of plans or guilty but it’s overwhelming when people from the outside are looking in almost judging our every move now we are married.
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