Rewind 3 years ago and I was the ripe old age of 20. Although it wasn’t so long ago I feel as though I’m grown so much in the past 3 years especially when it comes to saying no.
Growing up I really didn’t like disappointing people. It sounds ridiculous but back then I would have rather known I was pleasing other people then be completely comfy or happy with my decisions. This was in all areas of my life – my relationship, friendships, schooling, work and blogging. When I left university it was a big turning point for me. No longer did I feel the pressure to do the cookie cutter life thing and I started learning how to say no.
When it comes to blogging nobody teaches you how to blog and there is no real ‘right’ way to do it. Regardless of how much you think people have their shit together REALLY most are making it up as they go. I know I am.
I used to be really bad at saying no to press samples and sponsorships. I would say yes to most press samples because it was new and exciting. I was better at saying no to sponsorships I didn’t believe in but even then I still ended up promoting a few things, when I was completely honest with myself, I didn’t love head over heels in love with. It left me feeling a bit like a billboard for all paid and non-paid product. I let a lot of brands walk all over me because I was too intimidated by the potential relationships with PR’s and brands. Alot of people will say you have to work for free and allow some people to take advantage in the beginning because it’s how you get your name out there but I have to disagree.
When I left university there was a huge pressure for me to start earning big bucks from blogging because it was essentially what I was putting half of my time into. It was fucking scary! Looking back it’s probably why saying no was so damn hard for me especially when brands are waving considerable amounts of money in your face.
The turning point for me was when a government funded initiative wanted me to do a series of posts for them promoting a system that neither I or Isaac believe in. It was crazy amounts of cash however it was at that point I decided to make blogging about blogging rather then the money again. I said no and that same week my phone got cut off because I was behind on the bill.
I felt empowered and good about my decision regardless.
From then on I can confidently tell you the money I’ve learnt from blogging would not even pay a months rent and I can’t even tell you the last time I did a sponsored blog post or instagram. I haven’t done sponsorships because there hasn’t been an offer on the table that I’m fucking pumped about. Right now I’m focusing on building up our tribe here and figuring out the direction on where I do want to go. And I’m so happy with that.
What I’m wearing: Twisted Knit Jumper (size 10, gifted – can be worn with twist at front also as seen on the model) | Imonni Chloe Knit (size S, gifted) | Dr Denim skirt (not current) | Elroy Cairo Sunglasses | Lack Of Colour Fedora | Mollini Boots (not current)
Have you had a similar experience? How do you feel when you say no?
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